Oh yeah, the other tradition is the whole name thing. I think that ideologically, I either want to keep my name or have both of us change it, but on a realistic level, I don’t think I’d mind it, because between the two of us, Seppo has the cooler name with more recent achievements tied to it, even though I have the older, more prestigious name. It’s something I’ve given a lot of thought to. I do, however, have a serious problem with people just assuming it will be Mrs. H, simply because “that’s what people do”. It’s pretty obnoxious and sexist. Grrr.
Being engaged means thinking about a lot of “traditions” and whatnot that people expect us to cave into. It’s stuff that we ordinarily don’t have to think about, so it’s a little weird.
There is the whole diamond controversy. Some people think that we need to get a diamond, stat! One person has even said we are not really engaged until there is a ring. I will not reveal this person’s identity, so as not to incur anyone’s wrath. 😀 Seppo has been looking into manufactured diamonds. Some people think it’s just not the same thing. And you know what? It’s not. That’s the best thing. Now that I have spent just a little time thinking about it, I would be glad and proud to wear a ring with a manufactured diamond. It says many things that I like, such as:
- We are practical!
- We like new cool technology
- We are not buying into DeBeers’ scam
- We don’t need to feel any guilt over the history of the diamond, such as the conditions under which it was mined, the exploitation of third world countries, etc
Today, I read a really cool statement to the effect of, “A diamond was created a long time ago, but my SO and I only met a few years ago. But we hope to forge something permanent. What better way to express that than with a newly created diamond that we know is going to last forever, rather than a diamond with a long history behind it of shady things we don’t know?” Or something like that. I like it.