One to[o] many
Not unlike Seppo, I enjoy writing, whether it is on the blog or on paper.
As he pointed out, it serves as a social shortcut, allowing reciprocol readers of blogs not to have to engage in “catch-up” talk and letting us dive right into the here and now. I value this greatly.
Because I love to write in my blog and have other people read/comment, it would be easy to extrapolate that I love to speak to many people at a time in real life, spending a lot of time telling my stories. But in fact, that type of interaction is my least favorite.
Some people enjoy the unique dynamics you get when you get a group of people together and end up having to talk all over each other to compete for speaking time. Admittedly, I do enjoy this once in a while, but only once in a while. I much prefer to talk to people one-on-one.
I feel like I don’t really get to interact with individuals when we are in groups; rather, I feel like I am getting to know a facade (per person) better and better, while learning to put up a certain honed image of myself, whether it is to be goofy, spazzy, compassionate, or nice. It is when I am alone with a friend, chatting quietly over dinner, or walking around the neighborhood, or driving long distances in a car, or falling over laughing at some insider joke that I feel like my friend & I are truly interacting, truly speaking. I mean, it doesn’t have to be all “deep” stuff, but there is a certain need to balance group dynamics that gets removed from the equation when it’s just the two of you. I like gaining new insight *cough*incite*cough* from or about my friends. I like to see how they’ve changed, how they work, how they are. And sometimes in groups, we are all too busy trying to be clever to really let our guards down.
So I’ve been putting out an effort lately to spend time one-on-one with people, in addition to in groups. I may not get to see more than a couple of friends one-on-one per month, but it’s time that’s really meaningful and valuable to me.
Hee! I don’t really have a review. I thought the energy was great for a lot of the couples, but Benji & Donyelle’s hysterical and yet somehow funky hip hop was the only one I rewatched. They were so awesome! Hee hee.
I still don’t understand how a group dynamic works. Whenever I am in a group, I can never come up with a “group” question.
Too much booty (in da pants) – easily the best dance number of the night. It was one of those weird things, where you find that over the course of the show, you’ve recalibrated your standards. The first number was so awesome that everything afterwards really sucked, but by the time you’ve gotten to it, with the commercial breaks and all, you think, “that was pretty good!”
But then you go back and watch the first one again, and it blows all the others away.
I go back and forth. I like one-on-one conversation for the depth, and the chance to do more than deliver clever quips and stories. But I like group conversations because I don’t feel like I have to carry the conversation; I can sit back and only contribute when I actually have something to say.
Btw, for some reason, I hadn’t noticed your blog until recently. I will now comment incessantly. Ask Seppo!
Remember me saying I thought our DVR was sick? Well, we missed not only the Vegas round, but also the first two routines last night. Thank goodness for Rickey.org.
I much prefer one on one conversations with people I’m comfortable with, but when I’m still feeling out a situation, I’m much better at group dynamics because I can be anyone the situation needs me to be. When it’s just you and someone else, it’s only YOU and someone else, kwim?
Btw, for some reason, I hadn’t noticed your blog until recently. I will now comment incessantly. Ask Seppo!
Excellent. *Mr. Burns’ fingertap*
…I can be anyone the situation needs me to be
I think this is the thing that makes it so hard for me. I feel like I’m juggling interacting with so many people’s views at once that I feel almost dizzy. What I am left with after the fact is a memory of the conversation, but not necessarily who said what. So while I value what I got from the conversation, I can’t tie it to anyone in particular, so it becomes sort of impersonal to me.
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In Outlander, Jamie refers to some of Claire’s parts as “qwim” so I LOLed when I read your use, which, don’t get me wrong, I’ve heard before, but still killed me.
Good thoughts and all that, but I am waiting for your “So You Think You Can Dance” review.
What up?!